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Rekindle the Flame

Do the normal effects of aging extinguish sexual intimacy in some couples? For most couples, the frequency and intensity of lovemaking declines over time. In fact, about 10% of c… Read Article

Vaginal Dilators

Occasionally during my practice, a menopausal patient would ask me if it would be possible to have sex after many years of no sexual activity. This usually occurred in the context… Read Article

How to Have Better Sex When Overweight

Obesity is rarely if ever an obstacle to sex; very few obese persons are unable to achieve intercourse. Sex for overweight people is more likely impeded by lack of opportunity, ne… Read Article

How Does Being Overweight Affect Your Sex Life?

Does being overweight and being sexy mix? Absolutely...but for many people who struggle with their weight, body image issues and associated factors can turn off the brain's libido… Read Article

Sexual Arousal and Desire in the Aging Couple

Before we can talk about the aging couple we have to understand normal arousal and desire in men and women. Leon F Seltzer, Ph.D. does a nice job of describing normal human sexual… Read Article

About PSAs: What You Need to Know About Prostate Cancer Screening

The PSA blood test is currently the best available screening test for prostate cancer. But PSA testing is very controversial. Should you get tested? That depends on your risk fact… Read Article

Things You Should Avoid Before Sex And Why

Spontaneity and sex often go hand in hand. But, there are certain activities and even foods that can put a serious damper on an intimate moment. Gas-inducing foods such as beans, … Read Article

Doctor, should I have my DNA tested?

Today I would like to take you on a journey through human genetic testing and give you a glimpse of the very near future. Fasten your seat belts, this is as significant as the evo… Read Article

Overweight and No Action in the Bedroom?

First of all, how much of a problem is being overweight in America? Recent studies show that 2/3 of Americans are overweight, and 1/2 of those who are overweight are actually obes… Read Article

Bridging Body, Mind, & Spirit: How to Get What You Want Out of Sex

Let’s talk about sex: It’s a hot topic on television, in movies, and online. In addition to all the other steamy details, we want to know who’s having it and how… Read Article

Mindfulness and Intimacy

I have been seeing references in the media to mindfulness, allegedly something that can make us happier, healthier, and sexier. What is this all about? Mindfulness is a form of m… Read Article

Not Just a Man’s World Sexual Dysfunction Among Women

Typically, sexual dysfunction—defined as a problem occurring during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents an individual or couple from experiencing satisfacti… Read Article

Kegel Exercices for Men?

Those men who have heard of Kegel exercises probably heard about them from their wives as they rehabilitated their bladders and vaginas after childbirth. But both men and women ha… Read Article

More about Outercourse, Explore Each Other’s Erogenouse Zones

In our article on outercourse, we discussed different ways to enjoy outercourse. Kissing Erotic talk Masturbation Mutual masturbation Body-to-body rubbing Role playing Se… Read Article

Painful sex

Painful intercourse is called dyspareunia. The word is derived from the Greek word dyspareunos, which means “badly mated!”  Over my 35 years of practice, when me… Read Article

I Wish I Had Done This (Penile Implant Surgery) Years Ago

I can’t tell you the number of times a patient said to me, after recuperating from hysterectomy for severe menstrual cramps or severe pain with intercourse, once again feeli… Read Article

Sex Toys for Men

Are you looking to purchase sex aids and toys for men? Visit the X's and O's Store. Sex toys have for the most part been designed for women, but more men are coming to realize th… Read Article

Think Outside The Box: The Beginner's Guide To Enjoying Outercourse

There’s a common misconception in our culture that sexuality and sexual activity go by the wayside as we age. It may be true that some kinds of sexual activity, such as pene… Read Article

Off Limits? The Best Sexual Positions For People With Limited Mobility

Despite varying physical disabilities, most men and women can continue to be intimate well into their golden years Aging brings changes to our physical and emotional states. Thes… Read Article

Want to reestablish a relationship with your libido?

Loss of libido gets a lot of media attention, so just what is libido, anyway? It is sexual desire or to put it another way, desire for sexual activity. Is this a common problem? Y… Read Article