The Desire to Be Desired

The Desire to Be Desired - The Desire to Be Desired - Xs and Os

We are all old enough to remember Rod Stewart’s 1978 song “Do Ya Think I’m Sexy?” It starts “If you want my body and you think I’m sexy…” With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, let’s think about love—that mysterious force in people’s lives. 20th-century German philosopher Frederick Hegel defined love as “the desire of …

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Rekindle the Flame

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Do the normal effects of aging extinguish sexual intimacy in some couples? For most couples, the frequency and intensity of lovemaking decline over time. In fact, about 10% of couples have no sex at all after 20 years of marriage. Young couples and new older couples expect and want sex. As the years pass, some …

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How Does Being Overweight Affect Your Sex Life?

How Does Being Overweight Affect Your Sex Life - How Does Being Overweight Affect Your Sex Life? - Xs and Os

Does being overweight and being sexy mix? Absolutely…but for many people who struggle with their weight, body image issues and associated factors can turn off the brain’s libido switch, according to psychologist Martin Binks, director of Duke University’s Diet and Fitness Center in Durham, N. Carolina. Now, besides the libido issue, there are good reasons …

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Sexual Arousal & Desire in Aging Couples

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Before we can talk about the aging couple we have to understand normal arousal and desire in men and women. Leon F Seltzer, Ph.D. does a nice job of describing normal human sexuality in The Triggers of Sexual Desire, Men vs. Women. What causes male arousal? As women are aware, male arousal is pretty simple. …

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Want to reestablish a relationship with your libido?

reestablish a relationship with your libido - Want to reestablish a relationship with your libido? - Xs and Os

Loss of libido gets a lot of media attention, so just what is libido, anyway? It is sexual desire or to put it another way, desire for sexual activity. Is this a common problem? Yes, it is a common problem. Does the loss of libido affect women and men equally? No, women are more affected …

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