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Laser Treatment for Vaginal Rejuvenation: What Is It, and How Does It Work?

May 2018 I had the following question from a reader:   “I was wondering if you know anything about vaginal rejuvenation? It seems to be the craze lately. Curious as t… Read Article

Strap Ons for ED: Are They An Option, and How Do They Work?

Using a strap on, couples can still enjoy sexual pleasure even when erection is not possible. In this final article in our series on options for coping with erectile dysfunction … Read Article

Penis Pumps for ED: Can They Help?

  Many men are curious about penis pumps and their effectiveness in treating ED. Who might benefit from pump usage? Penis pumps are an option for older, healthy men with ED… Read Article

Vibrators for Men: Can They Help Treat the Symptoms of ED?

If you are having difficulty with erections (ED), this scenario may sound familiar… You are exercising, you have lost weight, you have limited your alcohol intake, you sto… Read Article

Do Penis Rings Help With Erection Problems (ED)?

If you are having difficulty with erections, you may relate to this scenario... You lost weight, you moderated your alcohol intake, you stopped smoking, and yet the erections wer… Read Article

Sex Toys for Erection Problems (ED): Can They Help?

I have had a number of questions lately from readers who can no longer get an erection.   They have a condition called erectile dysfunction (ED). Are erection problems … Read Article

The Desire to Be Desired

We are all old enough remember Rod Stewart’s 1978 song “Do Ya Think I’m Sexy?” It starts “If you want my body and you think I’m sexy…&rd… Read Article

Senior Sexuality: The Joy and Magic of Orgasms

Orgasms may be more difficult to reach with aging, but they’re still achievable—and so important for our wellbeing. I recently read a question from a 78 year old woma… Read Article

Osteoporosis and Sexuality

Osteoporosis requires some extra caution when it comes to sex, but it doesn’t mean the end of intimacy. Osteoporosis is a disease where increased bone weakness increases th… Read Article

Sex Toys for Older Adults: Making that First Purchase

Sex toys are great for seniors! Sexual activity, solo or partnered, is good for your health with aging. Orgasms are amazingly effective for reducing anxiety and depression and inc… Read Article

COPD and Sexuality

About 25 million Americans suffer from Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD). This is a group of chronic lung diseases that cause slow, progressive shortness of breath. The… Read Article

High Blood Pressure and Sexuality

High blood pressure (HBP), also called hypertension, is a common chronic medical condition in which the blood pressure in the arteries is elevated. Blood pressure is determined by… Read Article

Heart Disease and Sexuality

Heart disease is the leading of cause of death for both men and women in the U.S., responsible for about one of every three or four deaths annually. That comes to 610,000 deaths p… Read Article

Diabetes and Sexuality

Diabetes is one of the most common chronic illnesses.  29 million Americans suffer from diabetes; 8 million of those are undiagnosed.  26% of Americans over 50 have diab… Read Article

Arthritis and Sexuality

Arthritis is one of the most common chronic illnesses. As many as 35 million Americans suffer from the condition. First, what are the different types of arthritis? There are man… Read Article

Chronic Illness and Sexuality

People who live with chronic illnesses often have difficulties with sexual functioning. Sexuality can be altered by these illnesses and their treatments. Some people may become se… Read Article

Is Oral Sex Only for Young Couples?

  Part of what I did as a gynecologist was to give patients of all ages permission to be sexual. I counseled patients in sexless marriages that self-stimulation was not only… Read Article

Rekindle the Flame

Do the normal effects of aging extinguish sexual intimacy in some couples? For most couples the frequency and intensity of lovemaking declines over time. In fact, about 10% of co… Read Article

Vaginal Dilators

Occasionally during my practice, a menopausal patient would ask me if it would be possible to have sex after many years of no sexual activity. This usually occurred in the context… Read Article

How to Have Better Sex When Overweight

Obesity is rarely if ever an obstacle to sex; very few obese persons are unable to achieve intercourse. Sex for overweight people is more likely impeded by lack of opportunity, ne… Read Article